Wednesday, May 28, 2014

From the Groom's Perspective

Let’s face it guys, it’s called matrimony not MAN-trimony.  What that means to me is that the wedding day is mainly for the bride.  She gets to wear the super expensive dress, she gets to have everyone wait on her and basically just be the beautiful queen she wants to be.  Leading up to this, I never really heard much about what grooms had to say about the wedding day. So I thought I would share my experience since we just got married less than a month ago.

If you can afford it, get a wedding planner!!!  We had a destination wedding in Tulum Mexico and we figured it would be best to hire someone who knows the area and can make things happen fast in a foreign country.  At very least check into it. Our planner wasn’t a set fee. She took a percentage of the entire expense of the wedding.  Money well spent!!  We hired Kristee owner of Fresa Weddings and she was unbelievable.  She took control and let me in on what I needed to do to prepare for the ceremony. She advised me to work on my vows and that I would have to read them out loud and that was about it.  Of course my wife worked closely with her for 6 months before the wedding, but I didn’t have to.  They were the ones who bounced ideas off each other, discussed colors, flowers, knick knacky type things that I really didn’t have much of an opinion on anyway.  I was really only concerned about having good food (they actually had a custom painted taco cart for us plus other stations) and plenty to drink.  The wedding was amazing! All the details the planner brought to the party, would never have even been a spark in my mind.  I showed up with my groomsmen and best man, had a couple beers before the ceremony and then game on.

As far as the entire experience goes, I do have some pointers that I lived into and some I figured out and so I thought I would share them. 

1)    Don’t over drink the night before.  For me, I didn’t drink anything because I know myself.  I like being around people and tipping them back.  I was very thankful for this choice.  I woke up refreshed and ready to go.  Also, don’t think you should drink heavily before the ceremony either.  I’ve heard horror stories and who really wants that memory.

2)    Make sure you practice your vows.  Read them outloud, get the words comfortable in your mouth.  Emotion will be a factor so the more times you read and hone them the better.

3)    Eat!!  I wish I had eaten more, I paid a lot for these different stations of really nice food and though I went through once, I wish I had filled my plate at least one more time.  I was just so excited and tequila wanted to be in my hand. 

4)    Stay in the moment but take moments to soak it all in.  6 hours went by so quickly and there are big chunks that I just can’t seem to remember (not because of consumption).  I wish I had slowed down, breathed and let the memories burn themselves into my brain.

5)    Be prepared for the gravity of what you just did with your wife to settle in.  It wasn’t until two days later that we both broke down, held each other and were so thankful for what we had created.  It was awesome but it did come a tad unexpectedly.  Look forward to it though, it was one of the highlights of our 12 day trip.

6)    Don’t’ be cheap, hopefully you are only going to do this once so make it memorable.  Tip heavily and be appreciative, people will take good care of you if you take care of them.

My wedding was more than I had expected.  It was the best day of my life and I am glad there were a lot of photos taken!  I think the most important point to really take in to consideration is to remember what it’s all about.  Two people declaring they choose each other out loud.  The rest are details you can take or leave…